Codependency

What gets called "codependency" is often just attachment need that had to go underground. When asking directly for closeness felt risky early in life, focusing on others, keeping the peace, and making yourself useful became the safer route to connection. In Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFIT) we don't pathologise that strategy — we get curious about where it came from. And we work toward something more mutual, where you can receive as well as give, and where your needs have as much room as everyone else's.