How to deal with limmerance

Limerence is intense and addictive, as if the other person holds the key to your happiness. Recognize that it is a survival strategy to cope with pain. This pain can teach you that limerence is a projection of your deep longing for love and validation. What you are missing in your own life or within yourself may be chronically sought in another person as a way to fix it. In an unhealthy relationship, the human tendency toward addiction becomes extra activated when you are caught in an alternating pattern of sometimes receiving, and sometimes being denied, what you long for. In the moments your needs are not met, limerence becomes your mind and body’s way of giving you a small dose of ‘happy chemicals,’ so you feel able to cope with your inner pain and emptiness. Bring yourself back to the here and now: breathe, feel your body, and seek support in real, stable, and nourishing connections. By consciously redirecting your energy back to yourself, the enchantment can slowly fade away